-You become emotionally attached.
-You can’t hug them whenever you want to which is something you often forget.
-You find people who don’t judge you. At all.
-You have to learn time zones. That’s a real bummer.
-You find people who love you for you.
-You sometimes cry because you just love them so much and get super emotional when you realize they are thousands of miles away from you.
Sorry this took so long to reply to, I was trying to come up with a coherent reply as it has been so long since I watched any Luka/Abby interaction. While answering this post I want to make clear that I mean no disrespect to any Luka or Luka/Abby fans. And I think it’s important that I stress I have only seen seasons 11-15 once. I don’t think my feelings would change if I watched it again but there is a possibility they would (I doubt it :p).
My main issue with Luka/Abby’s relationship is that I don’t think they bring out the best in each other. Like I said, I don’t dislike Luka when he is away from Abby and I like their ‘friendship’ (I use that term lightly because I do think that Luka always had feelings for Abby and she always cared for him too). But for me, when they are romantically involved, they have an unsettling uncomfortable dynamic. When he is with Abby, he acts very much like he knows better than her which is strange because in his other relationships with Carol and Sam, he didn’t act that way at all. He constantly talks down to her (examples: how he tries to talk her into institutionalising her Mum in Sailing Away and basically any scene in season 14). I have blocked out the majority of season 13 because I really found it awful so I cannot give you specific examples unfortunately but I basically felt that Luka was exactly the same way as he had been in season 7. Emotionally unavailable. He keeps his feelings to his self and they never ever communicate about anything (Curtis Ames saga!). I also feel he constantly makes decisions for Abby, who has always been quite capable of making decisions for herself. An example of this would be springing the wedding on her without even consulting her. While others found it sweet and romantic, I found it controlling and creepy.
How he dealt with her drinking and her relapse really pissed me off also. He basically spends 7 years in DENIAL ("She’s not a drunk") that Abby’s an alcoholic. He’s never particularly sensitive to her issues. He drinks infront of her/keeps alcohol in their house throughout season 12/13/14 which implies he just thinks her drinking problem was a phase. When she relapses he offers NO form of support. He’s angry. He takes Joe to Croatia. He comes back. He threatens to keep Joe in Croatia. He quits his job. He moves out. What Abby did was bad and he should be angry that she cheated. And I in no way support Abby cheating with Morretti (And I want to make this clear because the last time I published my feelings on this someone accused me of justifying her cheating which is something I would NEVER do). But I do think that her relapse and her mistakes were due to the circumstances and COULD have been prevented or intervened if someone, HER HUSBAND perhaps had noticed. Even when he came home Luka still was oblivious that there was something wrong. I’ve said this before but if Luka was going to be physically absent, he needed to be emotionally available. His wife was halfway across the world with a one year old and a full time job. Leaving her for a few weeks was one thing but he should never have been there for months. Not without making an effort to check that Abby was coping with work and looking after a toddler. It would be a lot for someone without a drinking problem. Although I know it’s important for Abby to take responsibility for HER mistakes, I also felt Luka should take responsibility for facilitating her relapse and accept that his actions - before and after her relapse - didn’t exactly help the situation. He didn’t have to admit it to Abby, just to himself and it just never happened. Abby was painted as the fuck up and Luka, the victim. And then suddenly they just made up.
And to be honest, I can never get over their break up in season 7. The Carter/Abby meltdown was messy but the Luka/Abby one was down right vicious. They both say horrible things but Luka’s “You’re not that pretty, you’re not that special” sealed it for me. I just think they are toxic together and I feel that they were reunited because the writers and the audience wanted both characters to be happy. But I personally never really saw any build up to their relationship either time (I know the L/A fans feel differently). I do think both characters deserve to be happy, I just don’t think they were truly happy together. I also want to say I know there were many times where Luka was lovely to Abby (making sure she made her own decision about keeping the baby, not pressuring her to get engaged) but for me, these don’t outweigh the negative things about their relationship.
I’m sorry that was so long and I’m not sure I answered it as coherently as I could have a few months back because like I said I haven’t watched L/A scenes in the longest time :)
Ok, y’all are all about Chris Pratt right now, hoping on his bandwagon and stuff, and even the Parks&Rec fans are all trying to pull the hipster “we loved him first” card, but nah, listen to this - when I was freakin’ 13, 14 years old which was TWELVE years ago, back in like 2002, I had a freakin’ poster of Chris Pratt on my bedroom wall from when he was on Everwood.
So, yeah, I win.
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